Whoopie School

"Nearly everything is foreplay to me. A whispered compliment, a dirty text, a hand on my waist ... all these things get me thinking about and excited for sex."

What Is The Point of Foreplay?

Foreplay is the opportunity to explore each other’s bodies, try new things, and heighten the sexual experience. There are no maps or directions. Contrary to the popular idea of getting to bases, there’s no preferred order to foreplay. Just know that foreplay is preferred.

Foreplay, for our purposes, is any sexual or romantic activity that takes place before genital contact, including kissing, touching, and dirty talk. Foreplay increases arousal and makes any sexual activity more intense.

Basic Foreplay Tips

Foreplay is for everyone; both men and women like to be teased and aroused to new heights. Before we get to foreplay tips for him and foreplay tips for women, let's look at some basic foreplay guidelines that anyone can try.

• Harness brain power. We’re not talking about doing the New York Times crossword puzzle. Sex and arousal really begin in the brain, so don’t forget that non–physical activities can be quite a turn–on. Comment on your partner’s attractiveness, send them naughty text messages, light candles, play mood music. Any steps you take before physical activity begins will enhance the experience.


• Be creative. Touch your partner in different places and in different sequences than before. Find those unexplored erogenous zones, and touch in nerve–tingling ways. Use different textures (feathers, satin, leather) and temperatures (ice, soy wax) to mix things up. Do you think you’ve touched your partner every way possible? Then blindfold him or her, and start all over again.


• Take your time. Quick Sex (a.k.a A Quickie) is great every now and then, but long lovemaking sessions result in more explosive orgasms. Take your time arousing and exploring your partner’s body. Create a romantic evening devoted to sensational sex.

Remember, foreplay is about building the anticipation and intensity in your sex life. Foreplay may not be on the fast food menu, but, like a slow-cooked meal, results in amazing sex well worth the effort.

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