How To Meet Swingers

So you wanna be a swinger. You and your mate have talked at length about all the things to consider before swinging, and you’re ready to give it a try. So how do you pick another couple to swing with? This can be a daunting step, especially since people don’t walk around wearing “swinger” tags to identify themselves.

When you are first starting out in the swing lifestyle, it is important to choose the right couples to play with. It is important to look for people who have similar interests, in addition to having a shared physical attraction. It is a lot easier to take that extra step if you feel comfortable with the other person or couple, trust me. A lot of couples are not interested in playing on the first meet; often the first meet is just to get to know each other. Here are some tips on meeting the right person or couple to swing with:

• Websites. Start out by looking at a website that allows couples to post their profiles, and look for people who posted things that interest you. Most sites have programs that show you other couples or individuals that match your profile. You can look by distance as well, and you can look for people as close or as far away as you like. Personally we look for people who are close by because we enjoy hanging out with people, not just meeting to play. A great example of this is my fiancé and I love to go off-road, so after a little searching we found a group of swingers who also enjoy going off-road. We started out just going off-road, than we went to a party after that we started spending weekends with some of them. It is rarely just about sex. Believe it or not, it is more about friendship.

• Instant Messaging. Another step to take if you want to protect yourself is to create an IM ID that is separate from your regular ID so that you can give that out to people you think you would like to get to know better. Chatting on IM gives you the ability to maintain some anonymity while still getting to know people better.

• Meet in Public. If you get to the next step and want to meet the other individuals, choose a public setting. Keep yourself safe. We have heard too many reports of people who were not careful and got hurt. There is good and bad in every group of people and it is important to make sure you’re safe before proceeding. Meet at a restaurant or a coffee house, and enjoy each other’s company to see if you want to proceed.

• Discuss Boundaries. After that, it’s time to make a choice - do you want to play or not? You can play whenever everyone is ready, but make sure to discuss everyone boundaries first. Take care not to cross the line, and take the time to enjoy yourself. It is ok to act out a fantasy as long as everyone is ok with it. There is no shame in enjoying the company of others, and there is no shame in enjoying yourself sexually. We have to take risks if we want to find something we enjoy.

• Safe Sex. One word of caution, condoms! Always practice safe sex no matter who you are with. It is not worth the risk. You might eventually meet a person or couple you are comfortable not using condoms with, but that is a decision to make down the road. Use caution and keep yourself safe.

These are just some of the things that have helped us meet other swingers in a fun and safe way. Good luck meeting your new friends with benefits!