Cheating: Could You Be The Other Woman?

I know that most of my fellow women have been here: you’re out at the club and you meet the most amazing man. He’s cute, he’s funny, he’s even a good dancer. Oh, and by the way, he’s also married. Don’t get me wrong, I’m really not the type of girl to jump into bed with a married man, or with just any man for that matter, but is it ever okay?

In my opinion, I believe that I have somewhat of a duty to my fellow women to keep married men in check, and also to maintain my own personal standards of not adding ‘homewrecker’ to my personal skills. I know that not all women feel this way, and there are also men out there that go out and pretend that they’re not married. I actually happen to know a few of these.

I can also see the other side of the fence: if a man is willing to sleep with you, why worry about what he’s risking to go home with you? It isn’t your problem after all, right? He’s an adult and, in most cases, his wife doesn’t double as a babysitter, and nor should we. Personally, however, I could never see myself knowingly pursuing a married man. Sure, the whole forbidden fruit part is slightly alluring, but is it really that glamorous to be the other woman once you’re there? I also know what it feels like to be cheated on, and I wouldn’t want to knowingly wish it on any fellow lady.

The thing that really gets me are some of the reasons men cheat, and the sad thing is, I know more than one man whose got something on the side. Some stray because they’re no longer sexually attracted to their wives, but don’t feel as if they can leave because there are children involved. Others just want to find someone who is willing to do the things for them that their wives aren’t, or their wives have stopped having sex with them altogether. And really, both these scenarios are quite depressing for me to hear.

I know that when I get married, I want to know exactly what I’m getting, and if they married a woman without knowing what she’s not willing to do inside the bedroom, perhaps they should have never been married in the first place. And for those who find themselves with a lack of a sex life, I really feel for: typically I see that these men have been having marital problems with their wives that have come into the bedroom. And of course, there are always the men that no matter what we do, they will always stray, and mainly I think that it’s just a matter of ‘the grass is always greener’ syndrome.

But no matter what the case, I don’t feel as if these men should have an excuse at all. They hit the altar and took their vows willingly. Why should we take pity on them and sleep with them anyway? Unless of course, it’s perfectly okay with his wife, and in that case, I’d like to meet her.

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