If you live anywhere in the Northeast, then you know that this has been the rainiest, grayest summer on record and that we’re all cranky and scurvy-ish. That’s why, if you want to get laid at all this summer, I suggest you head outside this weekend and get your sunshine on.

Now, I’m not a scientist, so I’m not uncomfortable making up facts. Like getting fresh air and sunshine makes you a better lover. Or that vitamin D is proven to make boners and boobs bigger. Or that there’s a correlation between between sunny weather and more frequent sex.

But you don’t need made up facts to head outside, right? Our moods do elevate after some time outdoors, and our skin does look a little better sun-kissed (but wear sunscreen - sunburns just look ridiculous and make sex painful). Since the sexiest season has been elusive this year, take in some sun when you can, and I’m sure you’ll feel more alive and amorous than you have in awhile.

I am going to take my own advice and head down to the beach for the weekend. I’m determined to prove that eating lobster rolls makes you orgasm. Have a sexy weekend.

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What tips or advice would you give a man on initiating sex?

Veronica: There are a lot of things a man can do to initiate sex. One tip I would give (because it’s been a recurring thing in my personal life): giving a back massage does not mean you’ll be having sex 15 minutes later - for some reason men always think it leads to that!

Tara: Woo me. The right words and kissing is all it takes.

Holly: Make a woman feel sexy, and you’ll get her more turned on than just going in for a lame boob or butt grab. Compliment her, and tell her how much you desire her.

What is the best way you’ve been seduced by a lover?

Veronica: Honestly, it started with a few hours of intelligent conversation and led to him saying, “just relax” … and taking care of everything while I just enjoyed myself!

Tara: A backrub. He knew my back hurt so he massaged it and then at the end he started kissing me down my back. It was incredibly sexy.

Holly: A prepared bubble bath and a backrub. Works every time. (Sorry Veronica, but it’s true).

What is the worst move a guy has tried to pull on you?

Veronica: The worst thing a guy has pulled is trying to have anal without even a discussion beforehand; he didn’t even know whether or not I was into it - it led to me kicking him out of bed.

Tara: One guy thought I would have sex with him only because he took a Viagra.

Holly: Ugh. I hate when guys go right for touching or going down on you when you’re not even remotely turned on. It’s just uncomfortable.

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Do you think women should make the first move sometimes when it comes to sex?

Veronica: Definitely. Nothing turns a guy on more than a woman who can make the first move.

Doug: Sure, why not?

Tara: Of course! It’s a two-way street!

What advice would you give a woman on initiating sex?

Veronica: This is a toughie, because basically a woman can do or say anything to initiate sex and usually a man would go for it. I think being upfront about your motives is sexy enough to get the guy going.

Doug: I think men on the whole are thick - picture a large animal, like a moose. Subtlety is often lost on men, so it’s best to be direct and straightforward instead of suggestive and romantic. Save the candles for your bath.

Tara: Kissing and putting my hands in places they shouldn’t be always worked for me.

What is the worst move you’ve heard or experienced a woman pull?

Veronica: When women are interested in a person and they play hard to get, then become over-the-top flirty, then play hard to get - it’s a turn-off to send so many mixed signals.

Doug: Being black-out drunk at a party with a guy, shoving her hand down his pants, then shit talking him for not making out with her there.

Tara: I was at a bar one night and the jukebox was on and I screamed at my then boyfriend that all I wanted to do was go home and have sex. Well, mid-sentence the song ended and the whole bar heard me. In my defense, at least I know what I want.

Want some more tips? Visit how to initiate sex for women for more advice on making the first move.

Breaking up sucks; breakup sex, on the other hand, is amazing. Breakup sex is the temporary salve of the broken-hearted; that passionate, this-will-never-happen-again kind of humping that gives you the hope and sustaining orgasms you need to make it through a few more days.

Breakup sex, like make-up sex and angry sex, is easily some of the best sex available, but getting it generally takes some luck or the willingness to be a total dickhead. Breakup sex is as inherently complicated as it is pleasurable, so securing it takes some soul-searching, or, at least, strategizing.

Upon the demise of my last two relationships, the idea of some aftermath loving ran through my head. I mean, I am a: a man, and b: breathing.

After the breakup, I was left with one of two course of actions to pursue breakup sex:

Decision A: Lie! Say exactly what she wants to hear and get into bed together. This frankly is the simpler solution; easy to do and almost guaranteed to secure sex. It requires nothing more than callously ignoring the other person’s feelings and manipulating their emotions to suit your needs. No one wants to see a relationship end, not even a bad one. And by simply exploiting that, you can lie your way right back into her pants. Down the road, she will surely catch on though and the whole thing will come to a chaotic crash. If you never plan on seeing this person again and you are an asshole (probably why the relationship failed), then this might be the plan for you.

Decision B: Tell the truth. If you’re sexually attracted to the recently dumped person, let them know. The concept that once a relationship has ended, so does the attraction is backwards and can lead to awkward encounters bursting with sexual tension in the future. And what woman wouldn’t want to know that regardless of other issues the two of you may have had, you still find her irresistibly sexy? While this option leads to a more forthright and honest relationship going forward, it doesn’t guarantee sex. To date, I am batting .500 with this method, but perhaps more importantly, I am still friendly with both women. Maybe not best friends, sure, but not awkward if we see each other.

Once again, being an asshole will get you laid, but being the nice guy makes you a better person, and still has a 50% chance of getting you laid. Those are not horrible odds.

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You’ve got the candles lit, the champagne poured, the clothing off, so you’re probably thinking: what is the sex position that’s gonna show how much I care?

Okay. So maybe you’re not. But perhaps you should. There are many sex positions that are great for getting off, but only a few that are exceptional for love. Lovemaking, that is.

If you’re in the mood for some of that eye-gazing, soul-sharing, bodies-becoming-one kind of sex, then these are the perfect sex positions for those tender moments.

• Spooning. What more evidence do you need beyond the visual of how well two spoons fit together? Spooning has your bodies snuggled together back-to-chest, and keeps the range of motion to a “tender” pace. Plus, it’s one of the ladies’ favorite sex positions.

• The Lotus. If you’re looking for a transformative sexual experience, try this spiritual sex position. The lotus encourages looking into each others eyes and caressing each other’s bodies while controlling the grinding and thrusting to prolong the sexual experience.

• Missionary. What it lacks in creativity and clit stim, the missionary position more than makes up for in eye-gazing, body contact, comfiness, and romantic movie appearances.

• Siamese Win. This side-by-side facing sex position gives you a lot of options for your wuv making. Your bodies can be close and intertwined, or your torsos can be apart to allow room for touching or talking.

So the next time you feel like making love, show your partner that you care to pick the very best sex position. And sing a song, or something.

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